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Find help when you encounter domestic violence

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Domestic violence is violence that occurs within a couple relationship, when one partner (or ex-partner) wants to control and dominate the other.

They are not always easy to recognize, because they can take different forms, for example:

  • Your partner wants to control your outings, the people you see, the messages you send
  • Your partner makes fun of you, downgrades you, humiliates you constantly
  • Your partner pushes you, shakes you, hits you. He tells you that it's your fault if he is violent with you.
  • Your partner touches you or forces you to have sex when you don't want to.
How do you know if it's an argument or domestic violence? In an argument, both partners are equal. In a situation of domestic violence, the victim is controlled and dominated by the violent person.

In France, domestic violence is prohibited and punishable by law.

If you are a victim or witness of domestic violence, it is not your fault, and it is very important to talk about it to someone you trust.

In case of emergency, call 17 (police) or 112 (medical emergencies).
If you cannot speak or hear well, text 114 (medical emergencies).

How to do it?

It is important not to stay alone and to talk about it to someone you trust, for example:

  • a loved one
  • a social worker
  • a doctor
  • an association.
By phone, you can call 3919. This is not an emergency number, but you can call it to discuss your situation and get advice.
The call is free, anonymous, and does not show up on phone bills.
The person who answers gives you the addresses of associations that can help you near you.
Please note that the conversation is in French; it is not possible to have a translation into another language.
In case of emergency, call 17 (police) or 112 (medical emergencies).

For example, associations can help you leave your home, start legal proceedings, or get psychological help.

To find an association near you that helps victims of domestic violence, you can go to the website Arrêtons les violences, and specify your department.

The 'Nous Toutes'' association has also compiled a list of associations on this site . To find an association, you must first search for your department in the list on the left.

If you report the domestic violence to the police, you are not obliged to file a complaint, but it does allow the police to be informed of your situation.

To report violence to the police:

  • You can write a message online and chat with a police officer specialized in domestic violence by clicking here. First, select your department from the list, and then you can use the messaging service.
  • You can also go directly to a police station. To find one near you, you can go to this online map and enter your address.

Filing a complaint is not mandatory, but it helps you to remain protected by the police.
To file a complaint, you must go to a police station.

The police has to register your complaint, even if you have no evidence.

If you don't want to file a complaint, you can make a "main courante" (a "complaint") . This is a written statement made to the police, which explains the violence you suffered, but which does not lead to legal proceedings against your attacker. This can be useful if you decide to file a complaint later.

It is possible to file a complaint or report a complaint even if your papers are not in order.

If your residence permit is dependent on your abuser, you can apply for a special residence permit that allows you to be protected by France. In some cases, you must be able to provide proof of the violence (photos, messages, medical certificates, etc.).

If you can, the best solution is to leave the accommodation you share with your abuser.

Here are some tips for preparing for departure:

  • Save or memorize important phone numbers:
    • 17 for the police,
    • 112 for medical emergencies (or 114 by text if you can't speak)
  • Find people you can trust to go to
  • Keep your important documents with you, or a copy (identity papers, residence permit, health card, pay slips)
  • Keep evidence of violence (medical certificates, photos, papers given by the police)
  • Open a separate bank account in your name, with a different address
  • Prepare a bag in advance, so that you can leave quickly at any time.

What happens next?

Even when the violence is over, it can take a toll on your mental health.

To talk about it and not feel alone, you can:

  • consult a psychologist
  • call 3919
  • Participate in a support group: this is a group organized by an association, with people who have experienced the same thing as you, who share their experience. To find an association near you, you can look at the NousToutes list.
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